Helping Your Children Manage Anger

Uncategorized Feb 16, 2019
 

Your child’s outbursts can be scary for you and for your child.   The truth is that all behavior is a communication.   So, if they are having a meltdown, they are very overwhelmed and do not have the skills, yet, to solve the problem.    As I talked about in the 3R’s communication post, the best way to stay calm and in the moment is to start with describing what you see.    Above all else, stay calm.   Children will feed on your emotions, so if you are calm, they can draw on that.   Point out ways that they are showing control.    You threw something you didn’t care if it got broken, or You said “fudge” instead of a curse word.    You are showing a lot of control.    Do not give in.   That will be rewarding the outburst and prove to the child that it is effective.   Praise the child for calming themselves down.    Give them permission to have some time alone. ...

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Using EFT Tapping as a Tool to Manage Emotions

Uncategorized Feb 16, 2019
 

Fabulous free resources about EFT Tapping are available https://tappingwithterri.com/

 

Sample scripts

For anger managment:

Even though I feel angry, I love and accept myself.

I am so angry. 

I feel like hitting something.

I feel like screaming.

I do not know if I can control myself. 

I want to calm down so that I don't get in trouble. 

Maybe I can calm down.

But, I am really upset. 

I will try to calm myself down. 

 

For Falling Asleep:

Even though it is hard to quiet my mind and go to sleep, I love and acccept myself.

Drifting off to sleep

Letting go and choosing to relax now

It's safe for me ot let go and fall asleep

When I sleep, my body and my mind grow stronger

Drifting off to sleep

 

For test anxiety

Even though I am really worreid about this exam, I am okay and I will try my best. 

I am really stressed

What if I don't know the answer?

What if I fail the exam? 

I am so worried.

I am willing to relax

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How to Choose Extracurricular Activities for Your ADHD Child

Uncategorized Feb 12, 2019
 

School can be tough for children with ADHD.  Even if they manage to do well academically, chances are that they are getting much negative feedback about behavior, and this can start to affect their self-esteem.   Helping your child find something they are passionate about outside of school can be a way to help them have a positive self-image.    So, which activities are right?    

 

Choose activities that are a good fit for your child - not necessarily the ones you enjoyed.    And, limit number of activities they participate in at any one time, especially during the school year.   Summer camps can be a great way to try new things without overwhelming your child by having 4 different activities during the week.    

Some of the things that work well for many ADHD children:  

  1. Scouting   - provides structure, emphasis on outdoor activities and exploring, etc. 
  2. Martial arts - again provides structure and values...
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Tackle the Big Problems Head On

Uncategorized Feb 12, 2019
 
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School Parties and Food Allergies and Sensitivities

Uncategorized Feb 11, 2019
 
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Valentine's Day Preparations

Uncategorized Feb 10, 2019
 
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Build Your Child's Watiing Muscles

Uncategorized Feb 10, 2019
 

If your child seems to need immediate gratification and has trouble waiting for things, you can help them build their “waiting muscles” by giving stronger rewards for waiting.   

For example, if they are hungry and ask you to make them a snack, you might replay,   “You can have an apple now, but if you wait 10 minutes, I can have frozen yougurt with a cherry on top.”  For teens, you might give them more allowance if they choose a monthly or semi-monthly option rather than a weekly option.   i.e.   $10 per week or $25 semi-weekly or $55 or $60 monthly.   The greater reward will give them the incentive to wait, and as they say, success breeds success, so the more success they have waiting, the easier it will be for them to wait the next time around.  

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Wait 5 Seconds

Uncategorized Feb 07, 2019
 

Children with ADHD often process language a little differently, so it may take them longer to respond to your directions or commands.   Please wait at least 5 seconds before repeating yourself so that they have time to process.   If you repeat yourself, you interrupt their processing of the first direction, and they start all over processing the repeated command, and as a result, delay their response.  

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Effective Communication System (The 3 R's)

Uncategorized Feb 06, 2019
 

Recount, Redirect, Reframe - A method of interacting with your child that is simple, increases cooperation, decreases melt downs, and leaves your child with a positive self-image.  

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School Communications Binder

Uncategorized Feb 05, 2019
 

Learn how to create and maintain a school communications binder so that you have all the information you need for school IEP and 504 meetings, medical and counseling appointments, and more ready to go. 

Find the table of contents and communications log mentioned in the video in the files section of our facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/missionlifesuccess/

 

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